why are we defined by our third-order actions?

Something that I’ve noticed online is the need to find shorthand for everything. That one YouTube comment that you made is your whole personality. That one Instagram like shows who you are as a person. That one Twitter follow means that you are irredeemable.

Dr. Olivia Snow, a clearly knowledgeable and thoughtful individual, seems to fall into this trap a bit too. In this interview on There Are No Girls on the Internet, she talks about how data sharing between companies is harmful, where things like DoorDash accounts for sex workers get banned despite the two things not being directly related to one another and no ToS being breached.

But then she equates blocking all people who bought blue checkmark verification on Twitter with being anti-sex-worker. While acknowledging that the intent for a lot of people is to protest Elon Musk, she uses economic disparity between him and sex workers as reasoning for why making one choice means that you have made another choice.

The problem is that she doesn’t represent it as an implicit choice (by blocking all Twitter Blue users, you accidentally harm a community), but an explicit one (by blocking all Twitter Blue users, you are purposefully harming already marginalized people because you do not care).

I’m not trying to pick on one person, but using this as an example of a larger problem of ascribing the worst possible intentions to someone because they decide that they don’t want to interact in a certain space or a certain way.

I am pro sex worker. But I deleted my Twitter account because I hate so much about the service. Those two things shouldn’t be equated as one decision. Yet on the internet, everything that we do gets flattened into something binary and immutable about our identities.

I think that it’s important to be able to moderate your own spaces. I think that it is important to be able to make decisions for yourself that are based in what serves you best, not just what you think that others want of you. It is important to give some thought to second-order consequences of your actions, but the third-order consequences are nearly impossible to anticipate.

Not every decision that you make has to speak to a part of your core self, and that’s ok. Not everybody is deserving of your time and attention, and that is ok too.


‘Building a Platform Like Twitter Is Not Difficult’ – Brendan I. Koerner, Wired

I know people like Christopher Bouzy. Sometimes I am like him. It’s really easy to let yourself get in the way of yourself, and to make large problems seem trivial.

The dream of the personal machine – Kyle Chayka

I love the idea of digivices, pokedexes, and Penny’s book computer from Inspector Gadget. We’ve moved so much to commoditized sameness with our electronics, when the technology exists now to make powerful, bespoke devices that are unique to each of us. Give me the device that truly says, “this is mine and nobody else’s”!

‘Down the toilet:’ Antisemitic activist threatens to sue Volusia sheriff, demands $100,000 – Anthony Talcott, ClickOrlando

A stopped clock is right twice a day? Or perhaps the enemy of my enemy? It’s weird agreeing with a Florida sheriff on something.


Farewell to Pat Robertson, Enemy of Gays and Friend of Warlords

“Rupert Murdoch is going to win. Henry Kissinger is going to win.” Oof, this is too harsh but true.

The Internet is Slowly Dying

Link Rot is a big problem, but sometimes ephemerality is more in line with who we really are.

The Problem With Pride | James Somerton

Pride events make a lot of trade-offs, plenty of which the queer activist would not want to make at all.

Why Did the Scientists in This Remote Cabin Disappear?

This kinda just sounds like the plot of Tomorrowland 😅

Normal people vs me running from ghosts…

I love how the clown just goes along with it 🤣


♥ GOJII ♥ – PRIDE 2023 MIX

Keep it queer with my favorite furry DJ

Debunking the Tech Hype Cycle with Dan Olson – Factually! with Adam Conover

So so many good idea from Dan Olson in this interview. I love Folding Ideas, because he clearly puts a lot of thought into his essays before presenting them.

Sex workers know the future of the internet w/ Dr. Olivia Snow – There Are No Girls on the Internet

I spoke about this in the newsletter intro, but it’s still a very good listen.

Why I Became an Atheist (Content Warning) Scary Stories from The Internet | Creepypasta

Gasp, horror where the scary thing is other people and the harmful ideologies that they espouse. Perfect for pride month.

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