Category: Thoughts

  • Megaplex 2026

    This may be a month after the con, but I think that it’s still alright to talk about it, right?

    I was rather anxious and nervous prior to this con. Mainly, admittedly, if I would have to deal with any con staff. Last year I was on staff. And getting a bit of a peek behind the curtain, without just relying on vague stories told third-hand without including names reinforced some things that made me stop going to the con many years ago. There are still people involved who focus more on themselves than on the community that forms around them, and there are still people who cover for illegal or immoral activity because it suits them better.

    That’s a story for a whole other post! One that I keep debating if I’ll ever post publicly. Don’t worry, I don’t have juicy details that I’m keeping secret or anything, I just have my own experience and viewpoint.

    This year I took the con a lot less seriously while there due to all of this. Most of the folks that I know went with their own groups, or didn’t attend this year. I had one friend come to visit during the con so that we could go together. Beyond that, I didn’t try to get a hotel room, had no plans to stay late, and mainly wanted to be in Artist Alley.

    I spent a lot of time stressing over merch that I was making to be in Artist Alley. I wanted to make this a better year than last year, which I already was happy with. But alas, it was not to be. All of that stress, all of that work, all of that time taken away from life for this pursuit. To have a very poor first day, enough that I chose not to table on day two, but instead spend time with my friends and attend panels.

    I am not alone in this. Several vendors in Dealer’s Den that I know expressed how this year was great for their business, and the increased attendance of 12,500 furries certainly helped. But everyone who I talked to in Artist Alley shared the same as me: much more foot traffic, and far fewer sales. At least I’m not alone?

    A lot of things went better than the year before. Which isn’t hard, with what a shit-show it was for me personally in 2025. To be clear, I’m not trying to say that the con itself is all bad. It’s a wonderful place for furries to find themselves and to find one another. And there are a lot of great things to do and people to meet! All I’m saying is that I’m going to pause before going next year, and certainly will continue to side-eye anyone who appears to be more focused on personal gain than on bolstering a community.

    Anyway, onto the pictures!

    Some Fabulous Fursuits

    Dealer’s Den Interesting Finds

  • Aquatifur 2025

    Aquatifur 2025

    Last week I attended Aquatifur in Wisconsin Dells. I also gave a presentation on Constructing Your Own Space Online!

    I got to spend time with my husband as well as several friends who live closer to that con. We drove across the state, seeing plenty of wild animals that I don’t get to see at home, as well as enjoying a cooler temperature, and even some snow!

    One of my favorite things to do was create some badges and stickers for friends and YouTubers that I’m a fan of to present to them at the con. I showed most of them in my newsletter last week, and I’m fairly happy with how they’ve turned out.

    I was still a bit confused as to the layout of the con, which I think is just due to the layout of the resort itself. I also thought that the schedule could be improved a bit, mainly adding a few more panels throughout the day to give more options. I realize that I don’t know how many folks submit panels, but with close to 2,000 attendees this year (over 40% growth over last time I attended in 2023), I’d try to do more outreach to get panels. Or even create meets and find a host for them.

    I’m not sure if I’ll make it up there next year, since I think that I want to try FurSquared again, which is also in Wisconsin. But my husband and his partners enjoyed the water park like I’d hoped, so maybe I’ll see you again Aquatifur!

  • Constructing Your Own Space Online – Aquatifur 2025

    Constructing Your Own Space Online – Aquatifur 2025

    I’m giving the following presentation as a talk at Aquatifur 2025

    Social Media and Walled Gardens can be useful for finding an audience, but not for owning your creative content online. In this panel we’ll discuss several options that you could take, with various degrees of difficulty, to own your own space to share your art, stories, music, or whatever else you create. Come with ideas, leave with some useful links!

    Slide Contents

    1. Intro Slide
      • Who am I
      • Why I care
      • Ask who posts to social media
      • Ask who posts to their own sites
    2. The Problem Intro Slide
      • Walled Gardens
      • Ownership of Audience and Data
      • Algorithmic Engagement
    3. Walled Gardens
      • Platforms that control access, features, and data
      • Closed ecosystems: you play by their rules
      • Easy to join, hard to leave
      • Walled gardens make the rules, not you. They may be convenient, but they are also fragile for creators
      • Tip: think of social sites as storefronts, not your home.
    4. Ownership of Audience and Data
      • Followers belong to the platform, not you
      • Platform controls contact channels and analytics
      • Data about your audience is monetized
      • No matter how many followers you have, the platform controls how you can reach and interact with them
      • Tip: Collect at least one direct contact method (email/newsletter).
    5. Algorithmic Engagement
      • Algorithms decide who sees what and when
      • Prioritizes attention-grabbing content
      • Rewards frequency and format over substance
      • Algorithms are made to keep people on-site and looking at ads. Their focus is not what is best for you or your community.
      • Tip: use RSS or newsletters to bypass the algorithm.
    6. Platform Uncertainty
      • Policies, ownership, and features change unpredictably
      • Business shifts can impact visibility and content rules
      • Past examples: sudden content policy overhauls at Tumblr and Twitter
      • Platforms get acquired or change. A policy shift can destroy communities overnight.
      • Tip: keep an off-platform archive of your work and contacts.
    7. Data harvesting and ad targeting
      • Platforms track interactions, clicks, and preferences
      • Data sold or used to target ads and shape feeds
      • Your audience behavior becomes a product
      • You are the product. You cannot trust platforms to keep you safe.
      • Tip: review privacy settings and limit third-party access.
    8. Engagement over authenticity
      • Virality mechanics favor sensational content
      • Nuanced work gets deprioritized
      • Pressure to optimize content for reach, not meaning
      • Creators feel forced to make content to please algorithms over than their community or art.
      • Tip: schedule intentional posts that reflect your interests, not trends.
    9. Limited reach without paying (boosts/ads)
      • Organic reach often declines unless amplified
      • Paid boosts and ads gate visibility
      • Small creators can be priced out of discovery
      • To reach an audience, many creators have to pay for promotion.
      • Tip: build up your own mailing list.
    10. Platform Chaos (Tumblr Porn ban, Twitter Nazis)
      • History shows sudden bans or policy shifts can remove communities
      • Niche subcultures especially vulnerable
      • Recovery is often slow and partial
      • Corporate owned community spaces and archives can be wiped out without warning.
      • Tip: mirror important galleries/posts to your own site or backup service.
    11. DMCA takedowns or account deletions
      • Copyright claims can remove content quickly
      • Accounts may be suspended or deleted with limited recourse
      • Automated systems often make mistakes
      • Copyright claims and false reports can take down your content. Appeals are slow, if they work at all.
      • Tip: keep local copies and upload originals elsewhere. Document ownership (timestamps, source files).
    12. Portability: no easy way to move your followers elsewhere
      • Followers don’t transfer if you leave a platform
      • No universal “follow” across networks (except some federated systems)
      • Rebuilding an audience is time-consuming
      • Moving platforms means rebuilding audiences from scratch, unless you already can directly contact them.
      • Tip: ask followers to subscribe to your newsletter or follow a permanent link on your domain.
    13. Key takeaway: If you don’t host your content, you don’t control it.
    14. Solutions Intro Slide
      • Low Effort – Use Existing Tools
      • Medium Effort – Hosted Alternatives
      • High Effort – Owning Your Space
    15. Low Effort – Use Existing Tools
      • Cross-post among platforms (Postybirb)
      • Create a link hub (Carrd, Linktree, PawPals someday?)
      • Backup your content regularly
      • Add clear licenses (Creative Commons, custom terms)
      • Small steps help. Using cross-posters and link hubs keeps you from being tied to one platform.
    16. Medium Effort – Hosted Alternatives
      • Federated Platforms (Mastodon, Pixelfed, etc)
      • Ethical Centralized sites (RIP Cohost, Dreamwidth, Neocities)
      • Pros: Better community, more control
      • Cons: Smaller audiences, learning curve
      • Niche platforms are smaller neighborhoods. You still get visibility and social features, but with healthier communities.
    17. High Effort – Owning Your Space
      • Buy your own domain like barks.cafe or david.garden)
      • Use it as an identifier where you can (verify on Mastodon, or use for bsky like bowie.barks.cafe)
      • Build a website (so many tools exist for this)
      • Add RSS, ActivityPub, and a Newsletter for reach
      • Your own site is your home base. It can grow and change with you over time.
    18. Key Steps
      • Start small, iterate over time.
      • Cross-post.
      • Back up everything regularly.
      • Join small communities that share values (furry Mastodon servers, art rings, etc.)
      • Collaborate – link to each other’s independent sites to grow your networks.
    19. Thank you/Questions

    Helpful Resources

  • Moving from One YouTube Channel to Three

    I’ve spent a lot of my professional life teaching others. I’ve taught professionally at a university for a while. I taught online as well, with pre-recorded platforms like Skillshare, as well as a platform where I was paid to do live courses with small cohorts.

    Something that I’m looking to finally do more of in 2026 is record and publish videos for more than small groups to watch. I have my small YouTube channel where I vlog and am currently wrapping my first Inktober.

    One thing that I’ve allowed to get in the way of completing longer videos on different topics is wondering whether I should stick with one channel, or make new ones for the topics that I want to address. After reading this article, where the author discusses his reasoning for making multiple channels while only at a few hundred followers made me decide to do the same. If I’m going to do this, I want to do it right, which to me means setting up for viewer success.

    With that, here’s what I have in mind for three separate channels to make videos for:

    • BowieBarks – My current YouTube channel, which I will continue using to share personal art, painting, drawing, fursuit making, and general crafting.
    • Bark and Bytes – A place to share tutorials and process videos for the things that I make on the web, as well as other videos examining online culture. That last thing has been an interest of mine for as long as I’ve been building, and I’ve got a lot of thoughts!
    • An as-of-yet unnamed third channel for video essays that aren’t directly related to web dev.

    I don’t specifically want to have three separate places to maintain and try not to confuse myself with, but pretty much everywhere I read the advice is to have one channel be about one thing. The only reasons that I’ve seen to keep just one are to avoid spreading yourself too thin, and to be able to really push one. Which makes a lot of sense knowing how much I already overextend, but who am I to listen to sound advice? 🤣

    So that’s my goal. Sure, I’d love to share all of myself as one whole being, but I realize that not everyone would care about all parts of me. I certainly wish that I could filter out eight hour live streams of gaming from channels that I follow for scripted videos as an example.

    Whatever I end up doing, I’ll keep it all sorted and updated on my personal site and in my newsletter. The best places to record things and ensure that they won’t get wiped away by a fickle corporation.

  • Megaplex 2025

    Megaplex 2025

    Megaplex was quite a con this year! Not always in the best way, but I’m going to avoid going too explicitly into everything because frankly the negatives reflect more upon myself and minor issues than anything to do with the con itself.

    The main con days ran from Saturday to Monday this year, which seemed to throw people off far more than anticipated, myself included. My partner and I arrived on Thursday. This was my first year trying out being on staff for the con, and I wanted to be rested and already in place, unpacked, and not worrying about all of that for setup on Friday.

    Friday itself was a bit frustrating, and I think that a good portion of that was a buildup of things that took place prior to the con. There was a lack of communication about key information, which I personally have ideas as to why it happened, and how it could be addressed in the future. I admit, I spent a bit more time than I wanted that day dwelling on negative feelings, especially personal feelings.

    Saturday was simply too busy to think too hard, which was probably a good thing. I had a staffing shift, and ended up helping earlier and later than my shift as well, as there was a need for hands. The registration team was working hard, and doing everything that could be done, but a record breaking 10k+ attendance make the line to check in go long on Friday and Saturday.

    Sunday was to be my busiest day of the con. I had the Crafter Meetup to run first thing in the morning. After that, I had my Artist Alley slot, which I had to wait a bit to get into. Finally, I had a staffing shift on Sunday night, which would have gone well past my normal bed time.

    It was on Sunday night, around 10pm, that I made a seemingly unimportant decision. While I was doing some room checking/counting (to ensure that folks showed govt IDs to get in, and ensured that the rooms didn’t hit capacity), I was asked by someone if I wanted a hug. I said sure, as the furry fandom is very physically affectionate, and hugs are the main currency.

    Unfortunately, this person chose to lift me up and squeeze me as well. I was not prepared for this, and he is incredibly strong. After five or six pops on my spine, which normally would be helpful, I felt and heard a pop on my lower right ribs. He set me down, and I had trouble catching my breath. I immediately went to a private room that I thankfully had access to as staff and sat down. I then laid on the floor, trying to calm down and catch my breath past the pain.

    When trying to express the seriousness later, and that I wasn’t simply trying to skip out on work, I mentioned that this was the first time that I can remember in quite a long time that I cried due to physical pain. It simply hurt and while I could tell I would be fine, I did not know how serious it was.

    I still don’t know, as I’m awaiting X-ray results this week. There is a chance that there is a rib fracture, but my doctor thinks that it could likely be a cartilage tear, in addition to obvious muscle strain in the area. I’m still in pain, but thankfully not as much as a week ago.

    Monday was comparably quiet. I actually was fine sitting at my Artist Alley table, which was basically the only thing that I had that day. After that closed, I went home with my friends, skipping the closing ceremony and final night dances, not that they were on my list prior anyway 😅

    I am still a bit “on” with visitors in town for the con and theme parks. I’m mainly glad that the months of stress prior to the con are behind me. They’ll come again, but next time I hope to be more ready.

    As usual, here’s a big photo dump! As not usual, I’m gonna start just putting all pictures together, regardless of ratio or subject matter.

  • Wanting to Learn, for Fun and Profit

    I regularly keep and update a list of goals that I want to achieve. A number of these goals are the same kinds of things that everyone wants: a healthier body, deeper relationships with others, more financial stability, etc.

    But there are plenty of goals that involve learning. For instance, a few tech related things that I’ve wanted to learn or improve my abilities in:

    • Build Tools: to manage my web dev projects. Like actually understanding a bit of how things like npm and composer are working and not just running commands.
    • Laravel: I am working on a personal project that I’m very excited about, and I’ve been getting coaching on using Laravel. Plus, I’ve been asked about my skills with it for paid work, and it’d be nice to have that additional option.
    • Mobile App Development: There are several mobile app ideas that I have had in mind for a while. Including the one that I’m starting to build in Laravel! But I know that not everything is going to be as easy to make in a platform like that.

    Outside of tech though, I want to learn more things for myself. I love the idea of having more skills that I can whip out at a moment’s notice. It’s

    • Cooking: I like to cook, but could stand to have a few more recipes just in my head and ready to go.
    • 3D Modeling: I have a 3D printer, I love to paint minis, and I want to make my own to make things like fursona prints for my partners and friends.
    • Time Management: With the many things that I’m listening, I want to actually get better about using things like Time Blocking and Pomodoro. Knowing is one thing. Doing is another.

    And some of these skills are completely unnecessary in life, but just fun things for myself. They seem almost silly to share, but that’s the point. Life is silly! Having fun is just as necessary as having competency.

    So with that in mind, here’s a few things that I want to practice just for my own wants:

    • Juggling: I very briefly was able to juggle three balls at once a few times, and I’d like to get this physical skill back. Wouldn’t it be cool to whip out some balls to play with? 😜
    • Singing: I took vocal lessons when I was younger, mainly for accent training. The biggest thing that I took away from it was diaphragmatic breathing, which has helped me when it comes to running as well. I guess I just wanna have what I hear in my head more closely match what comes out of my mouth. Maybe that should be a goal for public speaking too… 😅
    • American Sign Language: I think that this comes from wanting to be more helpful in general. I only know a few words, and I want to at least be able to do basic non-verbal communication. You know, that thing that I already am bad at 😔

    This isn’t any sort of promise to do these in a timely fashion. I’m just trying to put some of my thinking publicly. It’d be nice to set some habits though!

  • Megaplex 2024

    Megaplex 2024

    This post isn’t complete, but I want to put something in my newsletter!

    One of the things that was a wonderful surprise for me was how I did at Artist Alley! I had been preparing so many things for my shop, Barks’ Cafe, and much of that was because I talked myself into booking slots there to sell my merch. I think that I needed that push to get as much done as I did.

    I sold a fair amount of stickers and buttons, and I was so thankful that people stopped by my table at all that most everyone was getting several freebies to go along with their purchases. This is the first time that I’ve ever done this, and I’ve already got notes for how I’ll make it better in the future.

    I took a ton of pictures, and am sharing some of my favorites here as usual.

    See you next year, Megaplex!

    Fursuit Funtimes

    Other Fun Things Spotted

  • Devlog: 27 June – 3 July 2024

    😅🤣😜😔💝😊🙂😝🎶

  • FurSquared 2024

    FurSquared 2024

    Last weekend I attended FurSquared 2024 in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. The final attendance count was 1,790, which is about a 50% increase in attendance over 2023. The convention charity raised $17,420.69 (nice) for the Humane Animal Welfare Society.

    This was a wonderful weekend overall for me. I feel bad that some of the folks that I was with were feeling sick, but am admittedly thankful that I stopped being sick the week prior, and my mental health was overall well during the event.

    I met lots of great new folks, got gifts for friends and partners, and got to spend time with some friends that I don’t get to see much outside of cons. It was my first time attending FurSquared, but I’d gladly do so again for the great vibe that it had. Plus I got to walk around in snow!

    As is becoming standard now, here’s a gallery of some of my favorite photos that I took this year, from fursuits to various merch to random fun things. Enjoy!

    Floofy Fursuits

    Marvelous Merch

    Much Misc

  • MFF 2023 Recap

    MFF 2023 Recap

    Alright, so this was the big one! No seriously, Midwest Furfest 2023 had a record attendance of 15,547 attendees who actually checked in over the weekend. It definitely felt crowded at times! But it was also really cool to see folks there for the con all over town, and even on the way to Chicago from Orlando.

    There were so many highlights it would be hard to list them all out. Admittedly there were some low points too, but nothing that would stop me from attending a con again. There are just too many friendly floofs there 🥰

    I did a bit of a recap in my belated vlog, which you can catch on my YouTube channel.

    I also took a ton of photos, and apologize in advance for the 35mb of already compressed images that you’re getting 😅

    Fabulous Fursuits!


    Artist Alley & Dealers Den


    Just like… other fun stuff!

  • Aquatifur 2023 Was a Blast!

    Aquatifur 2023 Was a Blast!

    I had a great time at Aquatifur this year, a furry convention that takes place at a water park resort in Wisconsin Dells. I made some new friends and had a really relaxing time.

    I ended up talking about it a bit in my weekly vlog, and even there I left out so many weekend highlights.

    I also took lots of pictures! It was a very colorful event, and I took far more than I could share here. I love that it was around Halloween, and that they leaned into some theming around that, with suiters going beyond their fursuits to do a costume contest as well.

    I’d gladly go back to this con!

  • Photo Tour of Rochester and NYC 2023

    Photo Tour of Rochester and NYC 2023

    On 29 September 2023 I went to the Strong Museum of Play with my partner and friends. It was amazing! I absolutely recommend spending a day there if you are in Rochester, NY.

    On 30 September 2023 I attended WordCamp Rochester and spoke on starting your own newsletter. The event was a lot of fun catching up with WordPress friends in a smaller, more intimate environment. I also saw a few other presentations and a wonderful keynote by Nyasha Green.

    The following few days, from 1-3 October 2023 my husband and other partner joined us in NYC where we had a mini vacation. We went to several parks, got lots of good food, and I bought way to many books 😅

    Here’s a dump of parts of our trip, with almost too many that I liked to choose which to share 💝

    I also recorded a vlog about the trip, mainly showcasing books though 📚🤓

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